Tuesday, 13 March 2012
What if no one has the answers?
Tuesday, 6 March 2012
'Sorry' seems to be the hardest word
"Therefore, if you bring your gift to the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift at the altar and go. First make things right with your brother or sister and then come back and offer your gift." Matthew 5:23-24, Common English Bible
In the last few days we have been hearing a lot about apologies and whether a particular apology was spoken with sincerity or not. Most of this talk centers around radio personality Rush Limbaugh and his apology to Susan Fluke -the Georgetown University Law Student. But, there are other discussions about apologies which have found their way into the heated political rhetoric of this election year.
One of the attacks on the President is that 'he goes around the world apologizing to everyone.' Actually, I don't perceive this as true. In fact, I find some of our muted responses when we have killed innocent civilians in our war efforts to lack both sincerity and proper gravity. The President's latest apology, after the burning of copies of the Koran, was in my opinion less about sincerity and more an attempt to protect the lives of Americans still serving in Afghanistan. Whatever the balance between sincerity and protection I applaud the President for this action.
Here's another example of President Obama's apologies: In 2010, the Administration of President Obama, acknowledged that, between 1946 and 1953, members of the US Department of Public Health performed invasive medical tests on more than 5000 Guatemalans infecting at least 1,300 of them with sexually transmitted diseases.
None of the victims, which included prison inmates and people confined to mental institutions, voluntarily consented to undergo these tests, and at least 83 of them died and many more suffered permanent medical damage.
Do we owe the victims, their families and the people of Guatemala and apology for those actions? Coming 57 years after the atrocities were perpetrated it seems to fall short of the mark in terms of sincerity and honesty. Why did it take more than a half century to admit that our government participated in these criminal acts? How can we compensate the victims all these years later? The truth of the matter is, we can't.
Apology is more than saying we are sorry. Apology also requires us to recognize the action or actions that have harmed others. President Obama's apology came far too late for the victims in Guatemala. But if it opens our eyes to atrocities done in our name then it is 'better late than never.'
In Matthew's Sermon on the Mount, Jesus speaks of apology and reconciliation as integral to true worship of God. We can't be right with God when we are in a broken relationship with our brothers and sisters. In a time of inflamed political rhetoric, perhaps those who wear their religion on their sleeves should also recognize that apology is central to the practice of one's faith.
Thursday, 23 February 2012
Thoughts on Ash Wednesday
Friday, 10 February 2012
The contraception question
Tuesday, 17 January 2012
The 'Morning Joeing' of America
Tuesday, 3 January 2012
Morning Joe, January 3 2012
Monday, 12 December 2011
Sermon for the third Sunday of Advent, December 11, 2011
This sermon was delivered on the third Sunday of Advent. The text was John 1:6-9.
I spent some time thinking about the name of our denomination this week. When you think about what was for a time called mainline denominations ours is somewhat unique. You have Lutherans, Episcopalians, Methodists, Presbyterians, Baptists, Roman Catholics, Eastern Orthodox, and Quakers, -but for the most part we are one of the few denominations that can be identified as Christian simply by virtue of our name. Our closet partner ecumenically also shares that distinction; the Disciples of Christ.
We are the United Church of Christ. Does our name matter? Probably not. Should it matter? I think it should.
People of the Christian faith, often fall into a trap that can lead to confusion at best, and can be rather destructive to how we live out our faith, at worst. The trap is this: we often take our rather limited understandings of the nature of God and try to see Jesus through those understandings, when, in fact, we should be taking our rather limited understandings of Jesus and try to see God through those understandings. In the language of the gospel of John, Jesus is the way to God, rather than God being the way to Jesus.
Perhaps the best way to illustrate the differences in these two approaches is through an event that happened this week. On Wednesday, I began to serve on a jury. I returned from Mineola on Wednesday afternoon realizing that I would be spending much of the next week at the courthouse.
That didn’t relieve me of home or vocational duties. And so, on Wednesday evening, with a steady rain falling, I took the dog for her evening walk. That in itself was a blessing, it would give me time to think about what I needed to do over the next week, and how it would fit into my civic duty of sitting on a jury.
Walking is also a stress reliever. But not on this particular evening. We got to the corner of Pea Pond and Saw Mill Roads. We stopped for a truck that was moving through the intersection. Then we entered the crosswalk, but within seconds were hit by a car that had made one of those Long Island rolling stops and turned into us. Jonesy was hit with enough force to pull the collar over her head and I was grazed and spun around by the front fender and mirror.
The driver immediately stopped as I pounded on the side of his Sport Utility Vehicle. I shouted, “You hit my dog!” Actually there were a few more nouns and adjectives thrown in to my statement. I quickly turned and found Jonesy cowering on the sidewalk, shaking and squealing, not so much in pain as in fright. I kneeled down beside her to see if there were any injuries while the man pulled to the side of the street and got out. He immediately said that he was sorry, but then added, “It was your fault. On a rainy night like this you should have been wearing something reflective.”
As I attended to Jonesy I reminded him that we were in a crosswalk, under a streetlight, and that he had failed to stop before making his turn. “I stopped.”
“No you didn’t.”
“I stopped because of the truck.”
“No you didn’t.”
We weren’t getting anywhere and I was more concerned about seeing if Jonesy was injured or just frightened by the experience. I placed the collar and leash back on her and got her to walk. She did, with her tail tucked between her legs. I checked her for cuts (thank goodness for a streetlight) and checked her snout to see if she was bleeding. It became apparent that there were no visible injuries and so as I kneeled beside her and comforted her.
The man who stood beside us for a time kneeled down and petted her. And then, he began to cry, which startled me. “I’m a dog lover. I have two dogs at home. I would have felt terrible if I would have hurt your dog. I am very sorry.”
He said all of these things through a shaky voice. The man who just a few moments before I had seen as irresponsible and reckless was now a man who was suffering more than I.
I didn’t say, I forgive you. That would have seemed condescending. I simply said, I think we’re OK. He stroked Jonesy a couple of more times and then we stood up and went our separate ways. After another mile or so, Jonesy’s tail was upright and wagging.
I got home and wrote on my Facebook page about the incident. Some of my old high school friends made a quick and sympathetic reply. They were glad that we were OK.They wondered if I got the guys license number and insurance information -I didn’t. But a few of them indicated that ‘someone’ was watching out for me and Jonesy.
Was that someone God? Was that someone a guardian angel? That set me wondering. What if we would have been severely injured or even killed? Would those same friends have said, “Why wasn’t God looking out for Ron and his dog?” I don’t think so. We don’t like to think of God as lacking either omniscience or omnipresence.
That’s why we often try to see Jesus through our understanding of God, whether that understanding is correct or not. Advent and Christmas are reminders that our task is not to catch a glimpse of Jesus through our fallible understanding of God -who will always remain a mystery. Our task it to try to catch a fleeting glimpse of God through the life of Jesus and through his humanity. Our two Christmas stories, which we will hear in the next few weeks, remind us that the glorious proclamation of the angels to the shepherds wasn’t enough. They had to go to the stable and see something of God in a babe wrapped in swaddling clothes. The Magi didn’t look up and see a new star in the sky and simply say that a new king had been born. They traveled across the deserts of Northern Africa, to Bethlehem, to see the babe for themselves.
And in both of these metaphorical stories they saw something of God that was revealed in that fully human baby. Two men kneeled over a shaking frightened dog and discovered the mystery of Jesus. “Where two or three are gathered, I am there also.” Those same two men left the corner of Pea Pond and Saw Mill with a new understanding of the God that we find in our human relationships and in our fallible humanity.
The driver left with a new understanding of the importance of driving with extreme care -especially on a dark rainy night. I left, thinking it might be wise to wear a reflective vest when I go for an evening walk. Anger and fear had been replaced by relief and forgiveness. The true light, which enlightens everything, had again broken forth. As it did in Bethlehem so it does in Bellmore. Thanks be to God.
